“You MUST Be On Steroids!!!”
You’ve been in the gym, working your glutes off for months or even years and you’ve built a physique that you’re damn proud of! Finally, you have chiseled six pack abs – the type that “ordinary” people want and envy (but don’t want to put in the work to achieve). You’ve gained muscle too! You’ve built big, round “caps” on your delts, you’ve put some nice slabs of muscle on your pecs, your legs are pillars of strength, your back is a chiseled mound of sinew, and your arms look great from every angle in a t-shirt. Best part: You did it naturally. You did it with hard training, disciplined nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. And then…. Some BUTTHEAD comes along and says, “YOU MUST BE ON STEROIDS!” How do you respond? I recently received and replied to that question and felt compelled to share the answer with everyone. I’ve withheld the name for privacy.
Dear Tom: Today I received a rather disturbing e-mail from an anonymous source accusing me of using illegal substances. It appeared to have originated from the discussion group but was constructed in such a clever way that the sender remains anonymous. I left the group instantly. I received quite a number of reactions privately asking me not to give in by leaving but I do not know how to cope with this.
I’m devastated by this. I can imagine however that one or two people may have accused you from doing the same. My question is, should you find the time to read and reply, how does one deal with this? Apart from the fact that it is plain hurtful, the person who sent this e-mail remains unknown. I find that very hard to deal with.
The world is full of critics and jealous people and the more successful you become the more they will come out of the woodwork to attack you (Because it’s easier to tear down someone else’s castle then to build one of your own, isn’t it!)… BECOME SUCCESSFUL ANYWAYS!
You DONT deal with these loser butt-heads, you ignore them and you deal with your own response to them. (Especially coming from some gutless anonymous jerk who doesn’t have the spine to identify himself and say it to your face).
If you allow someone else’s criticism bother you, let alone “devastate” you, then you have just allowed someone else’s opinion of you become more important than your opinion of yourself. No one can “hurt your feelings” without your permission.
You wrote, “I can imagine however that one or two people may have accused you of doing the same.” ONE OR TWO? Are you kidding me? I get accused of taking drugs all the time.
I say “Thank you!!! That’s the biggest compliment anyone could ever give to a natural bodybuilder.
You know what the best feeling (and the best “revenge”) is??…
The best feeling is NOT just “having” a great body… the best feeling is walking around with a body like Sylvester Stallone in ROCKY IV (or Monica Brant, if youre female), and knowing that you earned it with hard work and discipline and that you never touched a drug in your entire life.
The world is full of losers who want a short cut. They will never enjoy that feeling.
PS. Who gives a @! what other people think???